Above: The stuff I treasure most about my childhood was the memories we made together. Here’s a pic Dad, Mom, Soo and (16 year old me) in Hawaii. I’ve forgotten a lot of stuff that happened during my teenage years – but I’ve never forgotten that trip…
Stuff that is important:
- My family.
- My marriage.
- Spending time with the people I love the most.
- Feeling fulfilled, rewarded and happy in the work that I do.
- Being healthy.
- Food / shelter (the basics).
- Beautiful experiences with my loved ones.
- Making memories with my children.
- Facilitating and encouraging our children’s growth and development.
- Being generous with our lives.
- Respecting the planet… and the life that it nurtures.
- Respecting LIFE – and not deliberately going out to hurt or harm others.
- Deep and meaningful relationships.
- Being the change we wish to see.
- Learning, evolving, growing…
- Being happy – and making others happy too.
Stuff that isn’t important:
- Trying to keep everyone else happy and un-offended (at the expense of our happiness).
- Having a neat home.
- Being thin.
- Being ‘hot’.
- Wearing the latest fashions.
- Obeying stupid rules.
- Driving an expensive car.
- Owning the latest smart phone.
- Living in a big house.
- Having lots of stuff.
- Being “successful” in the eyes of others.
- Having the kind of job that other people think is important.
- Predictability and sameness.
- The illusion of ‘security’.
- Doing stuff because that’s the way it’s “supposed to” be done.
Stuff that’s important – but with an added disclaimer:
- Money. Yes, we all need it. Yes, we all want it. No, I don’t think it’s worth sacrificing your life and happiness for… and I don’t think it’s worth years and years of miserable living. I’d rather have less money and more quality of life – than more money and less quality.
- The Extended Family. I totally love my parents and my sisters. Nick loves his family too. And – of course, there’s lots of aunts, uncles and cousins who are also a big part of our lives. We love and respect our extended family – but there is a very firm line that has been drawn in the sand: they don’t get to interfere and dictate how we live our lives.
I’m sure there’s a lot more that I could add to all 3 of these categories… but then this blog will become an essay!
Anything that I’ve missed out? I’d love to hear some comments from the lurkers out there – what’s the stuff that you feel is important – and NOT important – in your life?